Intimate Talk

Oral sex, head, going down, cunnilingus — no matter how you prefer to say it, oral sex can be a GREAT intimacy builder among couples, you just have to find the best oral sex position for you.

In one study, it was found that for both men and women (and folks of all genders) that receiving oral sex can boost the chance of orgasm, enhance sexual enjoyment, and even be a predictor of emotional closeness.

Plus, with 70 percent of people with vulvas requiring clitoral stimulation to orgasm, it is a no-brainer to include oral sex into your routine. as foreplay or the main course. Here's what you should know to make your next session the most magical:

What is oral sex?

Oral sex is a sexual act during which one partner uses their mouth, lips, and tongue to stimulate their partner's intimate areas. There are different types of oral sex, like fellatio, which includes penis stimulation; cunnilingus which involves clitoral stimulation; and anilingus, which involves the stimulation of the anus.

Oral sex is the second most common sex act, after vaginal sex. In the last month, 49% of women aged 18-49 reported giving their partner oral sex, and 42% reported receiving oral sex.

Can you get STI from oral sex?

Yes. Just like with any other sexual act where bodily fluids are exchanged without a barrier, like a condom or a dental dam, you can transmit STIs.

Your guide to best oral sex positions, oral sex toys, and techniques

People with vulvas tend to experience more shame than those with penises about asking for oral sex due to worrying about odor, grooming, or vaginal fluid taste. Also, some partners are frankly just not that great at it. If your partner isn't the best oral sex partner you've had, let's help you help them.

5 of the best oral sex positions to try

Everyone will have different preferences when it comes to which oral sex position is their favorite. It's worth experimenting with a few different ones to get a feel of how different positions affect the way the stimulation feels and find the one (or more) that feels the best.

1. On your back

The classic oral sex position. Lay on your back in the middle of the bed or on the edge of it. Your partner's knees or lays down between your legs. This position gives your partner plenty of access to your whole intimate area, allowing them to explore the zone with their mouth and their fingers easily.

2. Sitting

Getting into this oral sex position is fairly easy – you sit down on the edge of the bed or in the chair, and your partner kneels between your legs. If they're uncomfortable, it's good to place some pillows under their knees so they can last in the position longer without experiencing discomfort.

You can keep your feet on the floor or place your legs over your partner's shoulder. Experiment with how the sensations of your partner's mouth and fingers feel with your legs bent and pulled closer to your chest. Even small adjustments can make a difference in how much better the stimulation feels.

3. Doggy style

To get into this position, get on all fours on a comfortable surface. Your partner settles behind you on all fours as well. This position is great because it gives the receiver (you) a lot of control over the stimulation as you can easily move. It's also the perfect position to explore other intimate areas apart from the clitoris and vagina and experiment with stimulating the anus.

4. Against the wall

Oral sex can be very pleasurable when standing up. To make sure you don't lose your balance when your knees get weak, lean against the wall for support. You can stand with your face facing the wall or lean against it with your back.

Your partner kneels in front of you (again, don't forget the cushions or pillows for their knee support). You can stand with both feet on the ground, or you can place one leg over your partner's shoulder to give them more access you.

5. 69

To get into this position, one partner lays down flat on their back, and the other partner lays down on top of them in the opposite direction so that you both are facing each other's intimate areas instead of faces. Then, you both stimulate each other with your mouths.

The TK best oral sex techniques to give a whirl

There are more than one ways to stimulate the clitoris during oral sex. So, let's go over some of the techniques to help you experience the best oral sex of your life:

1. The clitoris is bigger than you think

Remind your partner about your magical clitoris and the ACTUAL shape of it. It's not just a small, external nub, but instead, a larger, longer organ with two internal 'legs' called crura that contain thousands of nerve endings. Find motions that stimulate all of it, not just the tiny part you can see.

2. Meet Kivin

After your partner learns the shape of your clit, try 'sideways oral' or the Kivin Method. You (the vulva owner) lie on your back and bring your knees to your chest or place them over your partner's shoulders. Next, have your partner lies sideways (either side is fine... try both). They can start pleasuring you with up and down motions that go side to side over the head of your clitoris.

3. Alternate sensations

Try alternating between sucking, licking sideways, licking upward, and circular motions. The clitoris might get numb to the sensation if your partner goes hard on one type of stimulation, so changing up the intensity and the movement can make things much more dynamic.

4. Dirty talk goes a long way

If you enjoy dirty talk, oral sex is the perfect time to indulge in it. Sure, your partner's mouth might be busy, but they can easily take pauses in between stimulation to tell you how pretty you look, how good you taste, and how much they love "eating you out."

5. Incorporate the fingers

Involving the fingers during oral sex to stimulate the G-spot can have a very positive result in how much more intense the sensations and the orgasm will feel for you. Your partner can insert their fingers (start with one and increase the number if you feel like it) and gently massage your G-spot by making the "come hither" motion on your upper vaginal wall (on the belly side.)

6. Bring in the toys

Sex toys are yours and your partner's best friends, even during oral sex.

Incorporating a penetrative toy like Bloomi's Indulge can elevate the experience and give you intense blended orgasms. Your partner can insert the toy with the vibrating or non-vibrating side (alternate between the two if you like) to give you that G-spot stimulation and use their mouth to pleasure you externally.

Did you know you can experience oral sex solo?

Yes! You can experience the pleasures of oral sex even without a partner. There are plenty of sex toys on the market that are designed to mimic the sensation of your partner's mouth on you. Adding these sex toys to your sexual repertoire can lead to great orgasms.

LELO's Ora 3 is an oral sex toy that's designed to mimic the sensation of your lover's tongue over the clitoris. It has a little rotating nub and has different vibration settings to allow you to choose the intensity of your pleasure.

For a different type of oral stimulation, try Womanizer's Premium 2 oral stimulator. It uses the Pleasure Air technology that stimulates the clitoris without direct touch through waves of intense sucking and massaging stimulations. You can choose the toy to run on autopilot, which allows you to relax and enjoy unpredictable intensities.

For dual oral stimulation that mimics the external and internal stimulation during oral sex with a partner, LELO's Enigma is the way to go. This unique-looking toy is designed to provide sonic wave clitoral stimulation and targeted G-spot stimulation at the same time.

Between 5-10% of women have never orgasmed before but tend to learn how to do it later in life. According to sex researchers, the human body can experience at least 24 types of orgasms.

While we at Bloomi encourage folk to orgasm as much as they want, we also want to remind readers that orgasms aren't always the end goal of a sexual experience — unless you want it to be. Ahead we explore different types of orgasms along with tips and tools to motivate you to explore how to have an orgasm by yourself or with a partner.

What happens to our bodies when we orgasm?

There is a surge of feel-good hormones and brain chemicals, like dopamine and oxytocin, that are released during orgasm, which is why we just can't get enough of them. Certain areas of our bodies swell and become more sensitive due to an increase in blood circulation.

When aroused, the penis, vulva, vagina, and breasts all expand in size. In fact, breasts can grow up to 25%. Due to blood circulation, the vulva becomes engorged, and the vagina also expands, making penetration more pleasurable. 

The Orgasm gap: The differences between genders and sexual orientations

According to multiple surveys and studies, cis queer women who have sex with other cis queer women report higher levels of satisfaction than cis straight women.

Our perceptions of sex are heavily influenced by mainstream media, pornography, and the messages we received in our youth. Many cis-straight women view penetrative sex as "real sex" and consider other forms of pleasure as foreplay. But this couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, penetrative sex alone doesn't always end in orgasm for all parties involved.

As such, it's worth taking the time to examine our own definitions of sex and rewrite the script to better fit our bodies and how they experience pleasure. Queer women understand this and often introduce and center, non-penetrative activities in the bedroom. Sex can be whatever you want it to be; so long as it's consensual and pleasurable all throughout, have at it.

Also, queer couples are more likely to reach orgasm because they tend to focus on oral sex more frequently than heterosexual couples, who often rely on penetrative sex despite the fact that many people with vulvas can't orgasm from penetration alone.

It's important to note one distinct difference found between queer women and straight women that might be a contributing factor in the orgasm gap is that straight women may not expect to have an orgasm during sex, while queer couples do. 

Another thing that might be contributing to an orgasm gap is the length of the sexual act. According to a 2014 survey, 822 participants between the ages of 18 and 79 were asked about the duration of their sexual encounters. Results reveal that women who had sex with women had sexual encounters that lasted between 30 to 45 minutes. 

In comparison, heterosexual couples had sex for an average of 15 to 30 minutes. This isn't to say that women are more likely to orgasm the longer the sex lasts. What matters is taking the time to listen to your partner's needs and putting in the effort to fulfill them.

Your guide to all things orgasms

When learning how to have an orgasm, a good place to start is to understand the different types of orgasms you can achieve and what sort of stimulation helps to achieve them. 

6 orgasms vulva-owners can have

• Vaginal orgasm: Vaginal orgasms occur from penetrative stimulation of various pleasure spots inside the vaginal canal. There are multiple pleasure spots that can be stimulated, like G-spot, A-spot, and C-spot. But it's hard to pinpoint one particular spot that brings you to a vaginal orgasm. Instead, in most cases, it's a combination of different pleasure zone stimulation. Bloomi's Indulge is the perfect sex toy for G-spot orgasms.

• Clitoral orgasm: This happens from continuous stimulation of the clitoris, a little bundle of sensitive nerves at the top of the vulva. It swells and enlarges and becomes more sensitive as the person gets sexually aroused. And it's one of the easiest ways for vulva owners to reach an orgasm. In fact, most vulva owners need some sort of clitoral stimulation to orgasm during sex. Bloomi's Play Mini and Massage is perfect for that.

• Anal orgasm: Yes, you can orgasm from anal sex. It happens when the pleasure spots that are on the wall between the vagina and rectum are stimulated during anal sex. To increase the chances of experiencing an orgasm during anal sex, incorporate clitoral stimulation. 

• Nipple orgasm: Small studies are showing that some people are able to have an orgasm from the stimulation of non-genital body parts like nipples and breasts. It happens because stimulating nipples increases the blood flow to the genitals, and it releases oxytocin which induces uterine and vaginal contractions.

• Core orgasm: Some folks report having an orgasm from abdominal-focused exercises. During an ab-workout, the same muscles are activated as during sex, which leads to an increased blood flow to the genitals, which then can lead to a release of sexual tension. 

• Blended orgasms: Blended orgasms happen when multiple internal and external pleasure spots are stimulated all at once. You can get creative with your hands, your partner's hands, a sex toy, or all of the above. If you have a clitoris, have your partner perform oral sex on you while either using a curved toy like Bloomis Indulge or finger(s) to gently penetrate you.

Different types of penis-owner orgasms

• Penis orgasms: Penis orgasms are the most common among heterosexual men. Penis orgasm can happen during penetrative vaginal or anal sex, oral sex, and other types of penis stimulation, either with toys or hands. On average, it takes penis owners 5 minutes to orgasm during penetrative sex.

• Prostate orgasms: The prostate (AKA the P-spot) is a small gland inside the rectum that people who are assigned male gender at birth have. It's a pleasure spot often compared to the G-spot in vulva owners. You can stimulate the prostate internally with a penis, fingers, or a toy like Bloomi's Indulge, and that can lead to an orgasm. People who have experienced prostate orgasm define it as deeper, more full-body than penis orgasm. 

• Blended orgasms: Penis owners are also able to experience blended orgasms. Using a vibrator like Bloomi's Indulge to stimulate the prostate simultaneously with a penis during solo or partnered sex. Some say that blended orgasms also feel more intense than penile stimulation on their own. 

What are multiple orgasms and what do they feel like? 

This is a series of orgasms over a short period of time rather than a single one that you build up to. While all anatomies can have multiple orgasms, people with clitorises are more likely to experience them due to shorter refractory periods between orgasms. 

To experience multiple orgasms, start with positive thinking. We limit ourselves and our ability to experience pleasure when we've internalized the fact that we don't deserve it. Remember, our brains are so powerful that they can impact our genitals. 

So, the next time you think, "I'm taking too long" or "I'm not gonna come," try replacing those negative thoughts with, "I am capable of experiencing as much pleasure as I want" or "I can have as many orgasms as I want." 

Can penis owners also achieve multiple orgasms, too? Yes! Stimulating the prostate at the same time as the penis during sex can lead to multiple orgasms for penis owners. 

The best sex positions for an orgasm — truly

If you want to figure out how to have an orgasm with a partner or solo, it's worth experimenting with different positions and angles to find the right one for optimal pleasure. 

For partnered sex

• Cowgirl: The Cowgirl position gives a lot of control to vulva owners. You can decide the speed, movement, depth, and angle, which can help you find the best stimulation to achieve an orgasm during partnered sex. 

  To get into this position, allow your partner to lie down on their back or sit on a comfortable surface like a sofa. Facing them, straddle their body and find the right angle for penetration. Experiment with different variations of movement – kneeling or squatting. Also, use the wall or your partner's body for support. 

• Reverse Cowgirl: Reverse Cowgirl is also another sex position that's great to help you achieve an orgasm. In this position, you will be on top, but instead of facing your partner, you'll have your back toward them. 

• Doggy: Doggy allows for a deeper penetration angle during sex, which can help hit not only the G-spot but also the spots deeper inside the vaginal canal, like A-spot and C-spot. 

  To get into this position, get on your knees. Your partner will stand behind you during penetration. You can easily adjust the angle of penetration by shifting downwards and getting on your elbows or using the wall in front of you for support. 

• Missionary: Missionary is a great sex position to achieve an orgasm for a few reasons – it's very intimate and offers a lot of skin-on-skin contact that can add to overall arousal, which leads to increased chances of getting an orgasm, and it offers clitoral stimulation, which is needed for over 80% of women to achieve an orgasm during penetrative sex. 

For solo sex

If you're flying solo, you might want to try these sex positions to achieve an intense orgasm:

• On your back: It's one of the most common masturbation positions and the most versatile. When you're laying on your back, you have great access to your whole body and erogenous zones like breasts, nipples, inner thighs, and more. You can also focus on dual stimulation at the same time, which can lead to intense blended orgasms. 

  To experiment with different depths, if you're using a penetrative toy like Indulge, we recommend placing a pillow underneath your lower back to elevate your hips and allow for deeper penetration. 

• On your stomach: When you lay down on your stomach, you can use your hand or a toy (like a vibrating wand or Bloomi's Play Mini) or an object like a pillow to grind against until you reach an orgasm. Also, the sensation of nipples and inner thighs touching against the sheets if you're naked adds extra stimulation, which can increase arousal levels. 

• Against the wall: If you prefer to explore solo pleasure in a bathroom, using a showerhead or your finger or toys, then leaning against the wall for support is the best option. You can stand with your back against the wall and lift one leg up and set it on the edge of the bath to allow for easy access to all of your intimate areas. 

  On the other hand, if you want extra stimulation, lean against the wall facing it. The coolness from the tiles will add a pleasant sensation to the nipples, which can be a way to increase arousal. 

All bodies experience orgasms differently

Meet Massage Clitoral & Body Vibrator: a powerful, flexible vibrator that fits comfortably in your hand.

If you or someone you know is looking for a new vibrator, we have you covered. With Massage, you can enjoy a rounded side for body massages and a curvy side for clitoral or targeted stimulation.

Did you know that more than half of women (52.5 percent) have used a vibrator with nearly one in four having done so in the past month alone? With a statistic like that, make sure you’re using one that meets your needs, and more.

Discover why, when and how using this multi-use clitoral and all-over body vibrator can elevate your intimate moments and self-care routine(s).

What sets Massage apart 

Most palm vibrators or small massagers are designed solely to be placed on intimate areas. We like to think of Massage as a multi-use device that encourages exploration of new feel-good sensations.

Massage was designed ergonomically so that it can be held comfortably and used during intimate moments, like sex or self-care routines like, body massages. Its rounded side is perfect for massaging areas that carry stress or muscle tension, like the shoulders or lower back. Meanwhile, the curved side nestles nicely in between the labial lips and sits on the clitoris. Finally, because it is made with medical-grade silicone, Massage is very soft to the touch and slightly bends when pressed against the body allowing for a sensual experience from head-to-toe.

Massage is:

• Made with medical-grade silicone: Medical-grade silicone is non-porous, meaning there are no small holes, which prevents the collection of dirt or bacteria. Even more, it’s hypoallergenic, making it safe for those with latex or vinyl allergies. 

• Phthalate-free: Most toys on the market are not made with body-safe materials. In fact, many include phthalates, which are known to be a reproductive toxicant. But you don’t have to worry about that with Massage, as it is phthalate-free. 

• Waterproof: Its soft silicone material is waterproof and easy to wash with warm water and unscented soap. You can also use it in the tub or shower, worry-free. 

• USB-rechargeable: A full charge with our USB charging cable allows up to one hour of continuous use. 

• Compatible with latex and water-based lubricants: Pair Massage with a water-based lubricant, like Smooth, for comfortable stimulation on desired areas. We also suggest using a dental dam if you’re sharing your toy with a new sexual partner. Note: Massage is not compatible with oil-based products.

Why you should use Massage

Studies show that 75% of people with vulvas don’t orgasm from penetration alone and need some form of clitoral stimulation or added external stimulation in order to reach orgasm. In fact, people with vulvas orgasm 51-60% of the time with simultaneous clitoral stimulation. All this to say, clitoral stimulation is a fun, and sometimes necessary, way to explore pleasure, and there are vibrators out there specifically designed to help you and your partner(s) reach your pleasure goals.

If you prefer external stimulation over internal stimulation like penetration, Massage will be your go-to nightstand bestie. Because of its rounded egg shape, it is not meant to be inserted vaginally or anally. It’s also smaller in size, making it travel-friendly as well as the perfect deskside companion if you ever need a midday massage during work.

If you need another reason to add a vibrator to your cart, here it is: Vibrators can help strengthen intimacy within your relationships, including with yourself and/or your partner(s). These sex toys allow you to explore something new, build novelty and motivate you to invite more pleasure into your day-to-day routine(s). They also boost self-confidence and help you strengthen your relationship with your sexuality and body.

When to use Massage

There are no limits when it comes to play time. You can incorporate Massage into solo masturbation sessions first thing in the morning, right before bed or on your next vacation. In fact, sexologist Rebecca Alvarez Story recommends leaving your toys in areas that you positively associate with rest or self-care. For example, leave Massage on your nightstand or in the shower so it serves as a reminder to make time for pleasure during your everyday routines. 

If you really want to plan out when you use Massage, try this: Plan out a date night where you spend a night in, decompress in your favorite ways and incorporate a couples or solo massage. If you’re using Massage with your partner(s), take this as a fun opportunity to practice sexual communication. Turn on the toy and explore the vibration settings on each other in non-intimate areas like the inner forearm or hand. Once you both agree which settings you prefer, use your words or body language to help guide each other where to place the toy or how much pressure to apply. This is a great exercise to build connection, practice communication and of course help each other feel really good.

You know what they say: Safety first. And in the world of sexual wellness, lube counts as both a safety measure and a more comfortable experience, too — but if you’re using it with sex toys (or condoms) there are a few things to know before jumping in.

While you may want to grab oils and oil-based lubricants, they aren’t safe for sex toys or condoms.

"Many toys that are advertised as silicone are actually made of silicone and other plastic materials, that are not oil safe,” one Hype Bae article says, “As a result, oil-based lubricants wear out condoms and slowly deteriorate sex toys. However, there are various types of lube, some compatible with sex toys and condoms, some compatible with latex, some for external use, some for internal use, and so forth. “

To better understand, and slide through everything you need to know about the best lube for sex toys, keep reading, below.

What is Lube Used For?

Lube for sex is used to reduce friction by making the vagina and or anus wet. Whether you’re enjoying intimate time with a partner or masturbating, lubricants can support a better, more comfortable, sexual experience. While the vagina can produce its own moisture, adding to it can mean more pleasure. Give it a try, and you’ll see what we mean. 

The Two Most Common Types of Lube

The more you learn about sex toys, the more options you’ll encounter. Because pleasure is something we all deserve. Two common types of lube are water-based lubricants and oil-based lubricants. When it comes to sex toys, lubricant can be especially helpful, but you’ll want to make sure the lubricant is compatible with the sex toy. The same goes for protection, such as condoms. Water-based lubricants generally have fewer ingredients making them a more versatile option, but check product recommendations before using. Another factor you’ll want to consider is the ingredients. Afterall, the lube is touching your sensitive, intimate areas. An area that should be free of toxic chemicals. With Bloomi, you can shop with confidence, knowing that all of our products are created with our clean standard, and free of toxic chemicals. Let’s compare water-based lubricants and oil-based lubricants to help you understand the intended use for each. 

• Water-Based Lubricants: Water-based lubricants are usually a gentler option, with fewer ingredients. If you or your partner are sensitive, you might want to opt for a water-based lubricant. In addition, water-based lubricants are compatible with silicone sex toys. Our  Smooth Water-Based Personal Lubricant ($15) is formulated for penile and/or vaginal application to enhance the ease and comfort of intimate activity. Safe for use with silicone sex toys and compatible with latex and polyisoprene condoms, our clean, water-based lubricant can help make initiate moments more enjoyable. 

• Oil-Based Lubricants: Oil-based lubricants are thicker and can last for longer, which is why they’re a popular choice. Our Delight Oil-Based Personal Lubricant ($15) is designed for similar use compared to our Smooth-Water Based Personal Lubricant ($15), for penile and/or vaginal application. It’s a clean formula that can moisturize and lubricate, thus enhancing the ease and comfort of intimate activity. However, it’s not compatible with natural rubber and latex, polyurethane, or polyisoprene condoms. So, you can start to see where each type of lube has its own purpose. 

Looking for more excitement? Try Luxe Arousal Serum ($45) to increase pleasure before and during intimate moments. Apply 2-4 pumps topically to intimate skin a few minutes before intimacy and enjoy. Plus, it’s compatible with latex and silicone materials. While an arousal serum is different from lube, the perfect combination of sex toys and products can redefine intimacy as you once knew it. 

You can also try Luxe Arousal Oil ($45), designed for external use on the vulva, skin, clitoris, inner thighs, and surrounding areas. Apply 2-4 pumps, or desired amount, to your fingertips and gently massage on the application area. While it’s not compatible with latex, it may help get your partners a little wetter down there. 

What is the best lubricant for sex toys?

Some lubes, and truthfully most lubes, can be harmful to our beloved sex toys as they can degrade the material. One of the best types of lube to use with silicone sex toys is a water-based lubricant. Water-based lubricants are favored for their simplicity and versatility.

Our Smooth Water-Based Personal Lubricant ($15) is safe for silicone sex toys and is compatible with latex and polyisoprene condoms. While there are other types of lube, such as a silicone lube or oil-based lubricants, that can be used with sex toys, they are not compatible with silicone sex toys. Most are not compatible with latex either.

Remember it like this: 

• Water-based lubricant: Safe for sex toys, including silicone sex toys. 

• Silicone lube: Safe for most sex toys, but not safe for silicone sex toys. 

• Oil-based lubricant: Safe for most sex toys, but not safe for silicone sex toys. 

Can Baby Oil Be Used as Lube for Sex Toys?

In short, no. Baby oil should not be used as a lubricant, even though it’s safe for human skin and has moisturizing properties. There are several reasons to support the recommendation, including the following.

• Baby oil can weaken condom strength by 90% with as little as 60 seconds of contact. 

• Baby oil can irritate the vulva (outside part of female genitals). Intimate areas like the vulva can be sensitive to chemicals and moisture, further supporting the need for lubricant free of toxic ingredients.  

• Baby oil is hard to wash off. 

In the heat of the moment, you should always be prepared for safe sex. Shop our collection of intimate wellness products, including our personal lubricants ($15), free of toxic ingredients. Take home a free Delight Organic Oil-Based Lubricant($15 value) on orders over $50 at Bloomi.

Can Olive Oil Be Used as Lube for Sex Toys?

Natural oils such as olive oil can be used as a substitute for lubricant, but should be avoided with sex toys.

Olive oil could potentially degrade the material of sex toys. In addition, it can break down condoms. If you’re experiencing previous irritation of intimate areas, a natural oil option may provide some relief. If you’re looking for natural lubricants, shop our collection of personal lubricants backed by our clean standards. Our products might make you think a little dirty, but we keep it clean. 

Sex toys and lube can both elevate intimacy. Just as sex toys should be used as intended, you’ll want the right type of lube for the sex toy. Silicone is a popular material for sex toys, but it’s not compatible with most types of lubes. Choose a water-based lubricant such as our Smooth Water-Based Personal Lubricant ($15) to pair with your favorite silicone sex toys. Playing with sex toys of other materials, or perhaps none at all? Try our oil-based lubricant, Delight Organic Oil-Based Lubricant ($15 value), or get it for free with orders of $50 or more at Bloomi. Expand your selection of intimate wellness at Bloomi, and enjoy pleasure knowing no toxic chemicals are touching your intimate areas. 

Explore Bloomi product guides to maximize pleasure while getting the most out of products!

Sexual confidence: It’s what we do best. Whether you’re looking to expand your collection, or this is your first thought of a sex toy for you solo or for you and a partner, we’re here to deliver expert advice — and we don’t just cater to women or cishet couples, but gay men, too.

According to a recent survey, gay men or couples often use sex toys to enhance sexual encounters, and we love that. While intimacy can sometimes be a private subject, one in three people over 40 owns at least one sex toy.

At Bloomi, we believe everyone deserves pleasure. From our vibrators to our pleasure oil, our sex toys are designed for mankind (regardless of gender or orientation!) If you identify as a gay man, we’ve certainly got something for you.

Why Gay Couples Use Sex Toys

Sex toys are commonly used to enhance the quality of our sex life, alone or with a partner. Both men and women report that vibratory (a type of sex toy) provide positive sexual health outcomes, and are an important part of sexual repertoires.

A recent study surveyed 25,294 gay and bisexually identified men throughout the United States, showing that sex toys are commonly used by gay couples. Here are the results:

• Dildos 62.1%

• Non-vibrating cock rings 51.9%

• Vibrators 49.6%

• Butt plugs 24.0%

• Masturbation sleeves 27.9%

• Anal beads or balls 19.3%

Bloomi is a sexologist-led wellness destination on a mission to educate humankind and deliver clean intimate care™ products. As a trusted source for all things sex toys, we love and appreciate all bodies, and make products for them. Shop our complete collection of clean intimate care™ products and let your imagination run wild. All of our products fulfill our clean standard and are formulated with plant-based, non-toxic ingredients. Our team of experts is always here to help. From descriptive product information to our intimate talk to educate, it’s our mission to empower humankind while building sexual confidence. 

Is There a Difference Between Sex Toys for Gay Men and Sex Toys for Straight Men?

Our sex toys are designed for humankind, but most come with product recommendations for use. Safety is an important aspect of a happy, healthy sexual life.

Some can be used for both gay and straight orientations, depending on the type of sexual play. Products such as pleasure oils and lube are designed for all sexual orientations.

What Makes a Good Sex Toy for a Gay Man?

Types of Sex Toys for Gay Men

• For Gay Male Couples & solo use: Play Mini Vibrator ($35)

• Our compact, curvy, and powerful Play Mini Vibrator fits perfectly in the palm of your hand for targeted stimulation. It delivers versatile pleasure with two sides. Rub the round side anywhere for stimulation, and use the curvy side nestled in the anus. Don’t let the size fool you; you can do it all with our Play Mini Vibrator. Plus, it comes with a discreet bag so you can tuck it away at home or take it with you for pleasure anywhere.  

• For Gay Male Couples & solo use: Indulge Double-Sided Vibrator ($60)

• The name says it all, indulge. This double-sided vibrator made with 100% medical grade silicone is flexible and powerful. Voted #1 for partner and solo play, Indulge features one non-vibrating and one vibrating side. Designed for anal use (or vaginal, but that is less relevant to this article), this versatile vibrator has 3 vibration settings and is waterproof. Want more? Increase the intensity with the click of a button. Want less? Decrease intensity with the click of a button. Indulge in what makes you or your partner feel best. 

• For Gay Male Couples & solo use: Caress Full Body Massager ($65)

• Relieve stress and tension and replace it with pleasure with the Caress Full Body Massager. The full-body side of the toy is intended for full-body stimulation, while the non-vibrating handle doubles as an internal toy for pleasure. Made with medical-grade silicone, this massager, this toy is compatible with water-based lubricants such as our Smooth Water Based Lubricant ($15).

Where to Buy Adult Toys for Gay Men?

High-quality and safe adult toys for gay men are available at Bloomi. We deliver discreet sex toys and personal intimacy products made for all bodies. When shopping for sex toys, there’s more to consider than how well they work.

Because these products touch intimate areas, there’s a level of safety you’ll want to consider. Some products can present a chemical hazard associated with long-term health effects.

Trust in Bloomi and our clean standard, the only industry standard to ensure toxic ingredients don’t touch your intimate areas. Our clean standard is based on academic research and top sexual wellness experts. We care about the details, so set your expectations high and prepare for pleasure.

Our products come with product guides, long battery life, a USB charging cord, a discreet storage bag, and more. 

5 Top Sex Toys for Gay Men

Find what pleasures you, and or you and your partner. To help you navigate your sexual journey to maximize pleasure, here are 5 top sex toys for gay men that you might enjoy, too.

1. Vibrators (starting at $35): Vibrators are versatile toys available in various designs. Most have multiple intensities and can be used alone or with a partner.

2. Butt tingler: Designed for anal play, butt tinglers often have various vibration speeds and designs. 

3. Cock rings: Designed to hold blood in the penis, cock rings can increase the intensity of an erection. 

4. Handcuffs ($20): Handcuffs or fetish toys can spruce up your sexual life. Our flexible handcuffs can lock your partner up while making sure they still feel free and comfortable and ready to receive all the pleasure they are about to get. 

5. Dildos: Dildos are phallus-shaped toys designed to stimulate the anus or prostate. Similar to vibrators, dildos are available in various sizes and materials. 

Lubricants are an important part of a healthy and safe sex life, especially when using sex toys. Water-based lubricants are most compatible with silicone toys. Similar to sex toys, lubricants touch intimate parts and, therefore, should be free of toxic chemicals. Shop our collection of lubricants ($15), all designed to our clean standard for your most intimate areas. 

So, whether you're considering your first toy or expanding your collection, remember that sexual confidence is about embracing your desires with knowledge and enthusiasm. With Bloomi, you can trust that your journey to pleasure is guided by expertise, care, and respect for all bodies and orientations.